We know how important resilience and your mindset is when we talk about living a long life.
So, what happens when life happens? Challenges come knocking on your door?
Here are some good tips to keep in mind when that happens. And boy, will it happen!
When adversity hits, take a deep breath, think about the situation, and then list five things you can do without falling apart. Say to yourself, “Soon this will already be worked out, and things will be getting better.”
Ask the right questions
People often let situations control them instead of them controlling the situation. Many times, this occurs because they haven’t bothered to get the information they need. When problems occur, ask questions. Lots of questions. This provides you with enough information to develop alternative responses, at least one of which will enable you to bounce back from the situation.
Identify one positive thing in every situation
We’re not recommending that you become a “lemonade-out-of-lemons” kind of person, but no matter how bleak a situation is, there’s almost always something positive to be found. There is a couple whose house burned down on Christmas Eve, just two days after they moved in, when the husband tried to light a fire in the fireplace. They lost everything they had accumulated over the 40-year marriage. But they still had each other. And, they said, starting over was kind of fun.
Manage your expectations
If you expect everything to go perfectly when you travel by airplane these days, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. Instead, anticipate long delays and lost luggage by taking extra reading material or playing cards and not putting anything you can’t live without in your checked bags. Then, when disaster doesn’t strike, you’re three steps ahead! This kind of thinking works particularly well for family reunions, house renovations, and medical treatments.
Set daily goals
You need a sense of accomplishment every day to strengthen your own belief in yourself. These goals could be small, such as calling the housebound elderly woman down the block every afternoon, or work on a larger achievement , such as getting another degree or building a gazebo.
Compare yourself only to yourself
Just because Mary lost her job and had to declare bankruptcy doesn’t mean you will. Just because your neighbor Al had lots more good fortune this year than you did doesn’t mean you’re a failure. Mary and Al are very different people from you. Focus on your situation in the context of your life, not that of anyone else around you. Are you always checking out your friends on Facebook? Remember Facebook is only recording the highlights of other people’s lives. Their lives may look perfect looking at their profile, but they are experiencing the same challenges and problems that you are.
Recognize what you can and cannot control
If you have diabetes, for instance, and you’re following a healthy diet, taking your medication, and exercising regularly, but you still have fluctuating blood sugar, recognize that you’re doing all you can to control the situation, and you may need to put the rest of the problem in your doctor’s hands.
Change One thing every day
No matter what your age this is great advice. We become so entrenched in our routines that we don’t even notice them any longer. Then, when something happens to change that routine, we lack the flexibility to cope with it. To prevent this from happening one tip is to change your routine every day. Maybe just brushing your teeth with your left hand instead of your right, or taking a different route to work in the morning for a change. You can even sleep in a different bedroom in the house.
By changing one thing every day you will also improve your outlook on life. Changing something every day will put a little more spice into your life. May things new again and remove the boredom. But remember you need to do this purposefully. It more than likely isn’t going to happen on its own and also keep your mind open to change. Change is all around us!
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